“When I was a little girl I used to read fairy tales. In fairy tales you meet Prince Charming and he’s everything you ever wanted. In fairy tales the bad guy is very easy to spot. The bad guy is always wearing a black cape so you always know who he is. Then you grow up and you realize that Prince Charming is not as easy to find as you thought. You realize the bad guy is not wearing a black cape and he’s not easy to spot; he’s really funny, and he makes you laugh, and he has perfect hair.” ― Taylor Swift
Was finding love ever easy? Even tales and books talk about constant struggles of a couple against the bad and ugly just so they can stay together and reach that happy ending.
But tales never tell us that this struggle is ongoing. There is no “and they lived happily ever after” in real life if you don’t fight for the “happily ever after” and if you don’t compromise. But this is easy to say and hard to do because we are all at some time in our relationships plagued with questions like:
– Is he the right one? Should I be giving something up if he’s not?
– What if I give too much of myself just to realize he’s a “good old bad”? Yes, he’s sexy, he makes me laugh, he’s “dangerous”, he gives off that vibe that makes all the girls around him go crazy, and I’m so in love, but does he love me??? Does he? Does he? And more importantly, is he GOOD for me??
Oh, that never-ending and never-answered question…
After all those heartbreaks we went through on our journey to the Love Land, we grow cautious about letting people into our lives. We realize there is no correct formula for this and no one can tell you how to find what you are looking for and what you need. But they tell you to never stop looking.
I love how Carrie Bradshaw saw this & I agree completely with her. When did it stop being fun and start being scary???
Maybe some women aren’t meant to be tamed. Maybe they just need to run free until they find someone just as wild to run with them.
What do you think?